conflict between the sexes! Esther Vilar’s. The. Manipulated. Man Successfully Manipulated Male on Earth,” translated by Ursula Bender, as well as re-. Esther Vilar argues that the freedom men think they have in selecting a wife and being head of the household is actually slavery, and that. During the past weekend I came across an interesting book by Esther Vilar titled “ The Manipulated Man.” If you haven’t read it yet, I recommend.

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Etsher Preview See a Problem? Thanks for telling us about the problem. Return to Book Page. The Manipulated Man by Esther Vilar. Esther Vilar’s classic polemic about the relationship between the sexes caused a sensation. Vilar’s manjpulated and often very funny look at the battle between the sexes has earned her death threats. But Vilar’s intention is not misogynous: Paperbackpages.

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Opinion here rather than questioning. This book is simply re the title: Todd Most reviewers merely “cut and paste” other peoples printed opinions, please form your own. On to the book, remember folks this was written in…more Most reviewers merely “cut and paste” other peoples printed opinions, please form your own.

On to the book, remember folks this was written inmost of the “opinionated reviewers” weren’t even born yet so please hold your “two cents”.

For the rest of us born before then and experiencing what the writer writes about their are a lot of women out there that are doing as Vilar suggests, most are 55 and older and probably grew up in large families.

I would say the author is spot on with women from that age group. See 2 questions about The Manipulated Man…. Lists with This Book.

This book is not yet featured on Listopia. Jan 31, K. Mind-blowing eshter its courage and audacity, corrosive in its vitriol against feminine wiles and subterfuge. It would be more eye-opening and horrifying if ALL American women were as Vilar claims, but luckily I have found several women that defy her stereotype.

Moreover, Vilar doesn’t suggest any solutions to this gender war, she just gloomily insists men are happy to be lambs to the slaughter. It manipulatec very quickly and it’s hard to prove Vilar wrong. One gets the feeling that only a woman coul Mind-blowing in its courage and audacity, corrosive in its vitriol against feminine wiles and subterfuge. One gets the feeling that only a woman could have written this, and probably paid a high social price for doing amn.

Sep 10, A rated it did not like it Shelves: Over time, like so many books popular in their own age, the notoriety has dwindled. To her credit, Vilar is a clear, articulate writer, good at conveying her points and only a chore to read when she hammers at them too much. The basic gist of her thesis is that women are parasites, manipulating men into doing the work for them, so they can live free of worry in domestic wastefulness.

While this idea will immediately make most feminists like myself gag, quite a bit of what Vilar presents meshes with most feminism, and Vilar vilqr identified herself as a feminist. She takes a basically constructionist, non-essentialist view that manipulsted are not born with this attitude but are taught. The general notion that the traditions of paternalism and chivalry are in fact negative and destructive to adult relationships is also in keeping with general feminist views.


Where she diverges from most feminism and probably why she drew so much criticism is where she places the primary blame. It is not men who force this system onto women, but women who use what ostensibly seems a subordinate position to subjugate men. Topping from the bottom, so to speak. Men are, after all, the ones who do the work, the ones who are expected to provide, to take the risks, to bear the hardest physical burdens. On the one hand, women are stupid and uncreative, yet they expertly manipulate men through a covert matriarchy, while men believe they are really in control.

It might be that much of this manipulation is unconscious, but to do it well requires some brainpower. And though she seems quite convinced that men have accomplished a lot more, she also dismisses them for needing to subjugate themselves to a god or a woman Daddy and Mommy.

Her argument often hinges on broad generalizations that are, unsurprisingly, questionable. Maybe they didn’t have really steamy covers on romance novels at the time?

I could go on, but you get the picture. But Vilar has no problem blithely dismissing that text as merely copying the ideas of men, focusing on what vilat wrote of women, rather than women themselves. Part of esgher Beauvoir was doing was analyzing how women has been cast as the Other. But Beauvoir does, in fact, cite a few female writers. And it’s certainly not as if male philosophers don’t typically draw on the ideas of other male philosophers in order to build on them.

Vilar dismisses manipulater women everywhere as trained parrots, mimicking what the men have done while creating nothing of their of their own. Considering that, as she says, men are responsible for the culture and everything, what else is one supposed to do?

What other legacy have I, as a woman, got to draw from? Oddly, this criticism puts her in close company with radical feminists of a separatist bent, who she also criticizes for dithering over details.

She ends on a pessimistic note, not believing men or women will have the guts to free themselves of this system, a system I am not sure works precisely as she imagines it. What is bizarrely absent is any discussion of violence, coercion, and abuse, issues that have always been a touchstone of feminism. She does not even, like many MRAs nowadays, divert the issue to abuse sexual and otherwise against men.

On either end, it is unfortunate that she avoids it and weakens her overall argument. Mostly I wanted to pick something apart in more depth than most fans or detractors have bothered to do. I just didn’t like it.

Review of: The Manipulated Man (by Esther Vilar)

At least then I could laugh a bit more at the ridiculous things being said. May 10, erjan avid reader rated it it was amazing.

I could not believe a woman wrote this HONEST account on her own gender and how women manipulate secretly men into believing their masculinity; though the process of growing a man starts from baby years. Truth from this book: Feb 21, Farfignugen rated it really liked it.

This was a very interesting and eye-opening book. It gave a lot of insight into the minds of women, tantamount to forbidden knowledge. Reading it, I felt like an incredulous Westerner in the ‘s who was entrusted with some Eastern-bloc defector’s top-secret files. Women don’t want to work, and prefer it when men do all the thinking and working for them. The modern industrial state has not subjugated women, but has made them the de facto rulers of the world, since men slavishly This was a very interesting and eye-opening book.


The modern industrial state has not subjugated women, but has made them the de facto rulers of the world, since men slavishly obey women in exchange for temporary use of their vaginas. There is one section however in which I completely disagree with Vilar.

She states that women enjoy mathematics, because it is a system of easily-memorizable rules. This is complete nonsense. I am doctoral student in chemical engineering; I have been doing mathematics and science for pretty much the last decade in school. Most college women HATE mathematics!

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And the reason for the hatred is exactly the reason Ms. Vilar claims women enjoy it – it is a system of concrete rules, and you can’t bullshit your way through it.

No matter how convenient it would make life, 2 plus 2 will always equal 4. Though I can see why Ms. Vilar mankpulated this mistake. The way mathematics was taught when I was in middle school and early high school is actually much more conducive to females.

In these courses, the emphasis was not on gaining a solid understanding of mathematics, but on silly busywork – e. I usually struggled in such classes because organization was never my mam in school – while it seemed the girls always got solid A-pluses in these courses. In retrospect, it is obvious why girls did so well in middle school math courses, while I got a C in algebra Manipulwted.

Brainless step-by-step instruction is great for preparing girls that want to become secretaries to successful men – but are of little use to any student male OR female!

Oct 29, Adna rated it it was ok Shelves: While I think Esther Vilar raises some valid points on a variety of issues, she does so within vilag narrowly defined by her limitations of other social, economic and political influences that I suspect are more important than she wants to admit. If she had broadened the scope of her book to periods outside that of the industrialized United States of America in its uniquely prosperous decades after the Second World War this would, I think, have manipultaed evident rather quickly.

I would, for example, have liked to see Vilar attempt to explain why women in other countries and times have not been able to trick their male countrymen msnipulated the same kind of scheme that she suggests American and European women of the vilqr century devised. To take one recent example that’s been in the news; the type of men who pour acid down girls faces because, imagine thisthey want to learn to read, don’t strike me as being particularly manipulated.

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The millions of women, including those in a relationship, who work long hours or even a second job to make ends viar don’t seem particularly in control, either. Vilar might have had a point in the time and place this book was published. But it is far too narrow, far too myopic to serve as any kind of general discussion of the relationships between men and women.

The cries of thousands, if not millions, of women, all throughout the ages up to today, that ‘if only’ they had been born male, should mainpulated prompted Vilar to expand the scope of her book. It would have made for a far more interesting read. Wow, just wow and more wow!

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